North Star Advice

The guy I like doesn’t seem to care about me! I thought we had a real connection, but now I’m avoiding him. What’s wrong with me? 

-Ruh Roh 

Hey there, Ruh Roh ~ First, let me establish that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. Feelings can be wild and hard to deal with, but it never means there’s something wrong with you. It’s only a natural human response to feel this way when someone you really like doesn’t seem to reciprocate your emotions. While it’s normal to be upset over this, remember that there are logical explanations. When someone starts acting distant, it can feel like you’ve lost something important; but it might have less to do with something you did, and more of something going on in their life. Maybe there’s something in school taking up more of his attention, or maybe he isn’t aware of how you feel about him, so he sees your relationship differently than you do. Avoiding him might seem like the best option to protect yourself from a broken heart, but it also removes the possibility of figuring out what’s really going on. If you really like this guy and want to keep him in your life, I suggest having a face-to-face conversation with him. Ask him if anything in his personal life has been stressing him out, leading him to self-isolate, and reassure him that you’ll be there for him no matter what. 

Remember, communication goes both ways! You shouldn’t avoid him just because it seems like he’s avoiding you, but if he’s not willing to meet you halfway, that’s on him, not you. Whatever happens, don’t lose sight of your worth. The right person will make you feel seen and valued—no confusion or mixed signals needed. 

You’ve got this! 

-Aamna 

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